Ne'miah's Backstory

In loving memory of
Ne’miah Tobias David Mcinnes
12.03.2021

We found out about Ne’miah when his older brother was 5 months old. It came as a massive shock to us, we went through a rollercoaster of emotions but we couldn’t wait to begin our family as a family of 4. My pregnancy was a high risk, but normal healthy pregnancy until around week 32, where my blood pressure began spiking and an ultrasound scan had shown Ne’miahs growth had slowed down. We didn’t worry too much as we had similar happen in my pregnancy with his older brother. I was booked for a repeat growth scan and started on some medication to control my blood pressure.

I arrived at my growth scan, alone due to covid, on 11th March 2021, at 34 weeks gestation. I was feeling nervous, but excited, scan days were always my favourite days! I had a student sonographer perform the ultrasound, assisted by a consultant. After moving the probe around on my tummy for a couple minutes I watched the look on the consultants face as she asked if she could take over from the student. At this point I knew something was wrong, but I tried not to worry too much due to the sonographer being a student, I assumed she couldn’t find what she was looking for.. however that was not the case. Little did I know my whole world was about to be completely flipped upside down as they began to say the words ‘were really sorry… there’s no heartbeat’. The next moments were a blur, but I remember screaming begging and pleading for them to save him, but they just couldn’t.

Later that night I returned home, feeling shocked, numb and empty I didn’t know how I was going to get through this, I had so many questions that I had no answers to. I was due to go back in to be induced the following day. We arrived at the hospital in the afternoon, talking through the process with midwives and looking through the box of keepsakes we were given. Labour was beautiful, considering the dreadful circumstances. 2 hours and 46 minutes after beginning the induction at 8.52 pm, our beautiful Ne’miah was welcomed into the world sleeping, weighing just 3lbs and 12 ounces of perfection. He had the chubbiest little cheeks, big hands and feet. He was beyond beautiful. Like a real life angel.

Ne’miah is and will always be a huge part of our lives, and he will forever be missed. We will never ever stop talking about him. We love you our beautiful boy, fly high with all the other angel babies.

Love Mommy, Daddy and your big brother xxx